Gossip, even among Christians seems to be the most common topic. Instead of helping build each other up and help lead others to Christ, often we chose to talk about what he is doing or what we just heard about so and so. Why is this? Why do we as Christians feel such a need to talk bad about each other. I can remember being in church and listening to people talk about my family. I would sit back knowing there was really not much I could do about it. It made me want to leave the church. No one wants to go somewhere to hear roomers spread about them, no madder if they are true are not.
Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
This is the way that I think it is for so many, they are trying to come to God but another “Christian” is talking about them. Well, the church must be no different than everyone else. Right? So what do they do? Leave. By talking about people and not being able to control our mouths we can literally be affecting someone’s eternity. I am not saying that if someone is doing something against God that we need to just ignore it, but we do not need to be talking bad about them to other people. Instead what we need to do is confront them, not in a mean or rude way but in a way that shows that we care about them. We need to be willing to humbly come to them, for their own good. And offer out help!
Proverbs 21:23 “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble”
If you are constantly feeling the need to gossip, then you need to look at your own heart. You are falling away from God’s plan for you. You should seek God’s forgiveness and pray that God changes your heart. There is very likely a bigger problem in your life then the person who you are talking about.
James 1:26 “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless”
What should you do if you are hearing someone else gossip? There are a couple good things you can do. One is when they are talking about someone you can simply change the topic. Two, you can confront the person who is gossiping in a humble way. Three, you can simply leave the conversation, or try to find new people to hang out with. Four, something very important that we should do for anyone who we hear gossiping is pray for them. Pray that God will show them their sins and that they will turn from it.
2 Timothy 2:16 “But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more and more ungodliness”
Matthew 12:36″I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak”
Let’s begin working towards God plan for our lives and make conversation that will build up instead of teardown others. So the love of Christ is shown through your everyday conversation.